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Why haven't we met any couples when we go to events?
Perhaps because you didn't approach or introduce yourselves to any couples. It's up to you to make the night exciting, and or meet people. Don't wait for others to come over and talk to you, step forward and introduce yourselves to those you find interesting. It can be a little frightening at first but there are possible rewards.
How do we approach a couple to swing?
The simplest way is to introduce yourselves to the couples, get to know them throughout the evening/event (this also gives them a chance to get to know you) then ask if they would be interested in getting together with you.
What if we get turned down when we approach another couple?
Don't take it personally, or react in a negative way, just move on to the next couple of interest to you. Everyone has their personal choice and more than likely a couple will approach you who is not to your preference who you may turn down.
How do we broach the subject of safe sex with another couple we're interested in?
If they are interested, simply state your preferences clearly, discuss each couples' preference and take it from there.
How do I get my partner to swing?
Start off by asking yourself why you want to swing. If it's just to spice us a flagging sex life, to try and patch problems in a relationship or to meet and pick up other people regardless of your partner, then swinging is not a good idea.
If these are not the reasons and you are still interested in swinging, begin by having honest discussions about matters such as the strength of your relationship, sexual desires and fantasies, bringing someone into your sexual relationship, etc.
Go slowly and be patient, this discussion could take some time. Coaxing or forcing your partner to your way of thinking is not recommended as this could create negative feelings on their part.
Once you're both comfortable having open and honest discussions around your sexual desires and if your partner is receptive to sexual fantasies with others involved, ask them if they've ever thought of swinging. Again, go slowly and be patient. Begin a discussion about swinging, show them this website so they can see that there are other people who do it. See where it leads and your partners' reactions. If your partner is comfortable with this and is even excited
about it then move to the next stage.
Ask if they would be interested in visiting a swingers club just to see what it's like and what goes on. Let your partner decide if they want to go. If the answer is yes, then set some rules before you go so that both of you will feel comfortable. Both of you should maintain an open mind while there and focus on enjoying yourselves. Swing clubs can be exciting, fun, erotic places. When you get home, have an honest discussion about how you both felt there, what you enjoyed,
were you attracted to anyone, etc. Return several times and see how you both feel.
Once you've been to several dances and you and your partner are comfortable and excited about swing clubs then you can decide together if you would like to swing. Begin your discussions again and take small steps. Go at a pace that is comfortable for both of you and more than likely you'll eventually start swinging.
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